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Unhappiness can be like a chronic cough, an early symptom of a extended serious condition. Most people are either unwilling or unable to face up to the fact that theres some problem eating them up enough to cause chronic misery.
I always hear people say that theyre just not happy in their jobs, marriages or relationships. But most are unwilling to accept their portion of the blame. When it comes to how happy or unhappy you are, youre the boss! No one is going to work as hard as you can to insure your personal happiness. Unhappiness can be like a chronic cough, an early symptom of a increased serious condition. Most people are either unwilling or unable to face up to the fact that theres some problem eating them up enough to cause chronic misery. Like any other disease, this kind of unhappiness requires treatment.
Most of us let circumstances beyond our control rule our lives. People can only make you feel as miserable as you allow them to. More then a few of us have made bad decisions about whom we associate with. Each year a friend of mine visits her mother. She doesnt get along with the woman and, from all available evidence, her mother shows virtually no interest in her. Yet she constantly seeks acceptance and tries to establish a mother-daughter relationship that will likely never exist between the two. Trying to repair a relationship that was bad to begin with is an exercise in futility. By the same token, the worst thing anyone can do is dwell on how the misdeeds of others have affected their life.
People will do selfish and foolish things and sometimes life just seems very unfair, but the worst damage that anyone can do to you is what you allow them to. You may end up broke because a business partner cheats you or divorced because your mate did you wrong, but why spend the rest of your life paying for their mistake? Happiness is a personal choice and life is ours for the living. The only one who can really ruin your life is you.
More then a few people have told me over the years that the romance has gone out of their marriage or relationship. They cry about not getting flowers, being ignored, not taken out enough or say that their mate is just not spontaneous. Well, Ill give you the flowers thing! Any guy that doesnt bring home flowers at least once a month probably needs a personality transplant. But thats not to say that we shouldnt look at both sides of the coin.
What you put into a relationship is what you get out of it. If you want spontaneity from your mate, then be a little spontaneous yourself! Surprise them with a romantic evening in or out. You may not be the only one who is unhappy. Sometimes people get caught in a rut or feel a little down. The idea is to help prop each other up when its needed. If your honey forgets to deliver the goods (flowers, candy, gifts orwellyou know!), leave a little card with a picture of flowers, candy, gifts or yourself au natural, laying around for them to see with the caption, Did you forget something?
If your boss or supervisor seems to be trying to win the Dictator of the Century award, just take it in stride. Your responsibility to your job is limited to its description. If you feel their behavior is over the top, it might be time for a gentle reminder that being the boss doesnt mean they have to be overly-bossy. If a sit down wont work, leave a copy of The Godfather book on their desk. No, dont include a little plastic horse with the head popped off! Thats just not nice. You can also try some of those silly theme gifts that say things like LIGHTEN UP!
Most people that are workplace tyrants either go up, down or out in a reasonably short period of time. Youre probably not the only one that thinks theyre a real pain the neck to deal with. People above them and those who have to do business with them will eventually tire of their bossy ways. If the person in question happens to own the company, then maybe its time for you to move on. I firmly believe that people should never consign themselves to be anyones whipping post.
Single people can sometimes get frustrated by dating choices or a string of relationships that didnt go anywhere. If this is you, maybe its time for some soul searching. Most people have preconceived notions about who they should date. These notions might keep them from finding the true love of their life. Even wedded bliss doesnt solve all relationship problems, and actually may create some new ones.
All Newlyweds often go through a tough adjustment period. Going from living by yourself to spending 24/7 with another person is no easy adjustment. Instead of juggling one schedule, youre now responsible for two. Mealtimes, work schedules and other considerations have to be mutually acceptable. For a time, it may all seem impossible to handle, but things usually fall into place when couples work together for the common good.
A willingness to be flexible and accept a new way of life is essential if any marriage is to succeed. If you feel put upon and find that your mate is unwilling to share their part of the give of any relationship, it might be some time for marriage counseling. When a problem is one that is shared by or affects major then one person, its all the larger important to make an attempt at solving it as soon as possible.
If marriage puts pressure on people, divorce doubles it. A recent survey indicated that most people who get divorced are as unhappy or extra unhappy then they were while still married. This isnt a values judgment on divorce, but rather an indicator that it may not be the cure-all people think it is. There are times when a relationship is worth saving. That decision is one that only you can make. But any relationship decision is sure to be a serious one, so think and consider carefully before you act. Theres no harm in seeking advice or even professional help, as long as its competent. Before you choose a marriage counselor or divorce advisor/referee, ask for references and find out how successful theyve been at helping people.
The biggest obstacle to most peoples personal happiness is that they do not plan to be happy. They float through life giving in to the ebb and flow of events around them, becoming never-ending victims of circumstance. If thats you, its time to step up and plan your moves in advance with a thought to avoiding situations likely to cause you grief. This may require a period of reflection, and self-examination is never a particularly fun event. But looking at where your life is now, can help you move it to a better place later. This doesnt mean we should walk away from responsibilities that have already been committed to, but rather find ways to work in positive things that bring us joy. Its true that into every life some rain must fall, but theres nothing wrong with having an umbrella handy when it does!
About the Author
A native New Yorker now living in Arizona, Bill Knell is a forty-something guy with a wealth of knowledge and experience. He’s written hundreds of articles on a wide variety of subjects. A popular Speaker, Bill Knell presents seminars on a number of topics that entertain, train and teach. A popular radio and television show Guest, you’ve heard Bill on thousands of top-rated shows in all formats and seen him on local, national and international television programs.
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